Marriage Ceremonies

Aloria has many rituals of binding partners. Some are drawn-out, formal affairs, while others are short and simple. Almost all are also bound to the various Religions of Aloria, and are done within the presence of holy men who seal the bond with the blessings of a god or many gods. Because of this, some forms of marriage are not accepted in various nations, and are seen as invalid or in conflict with the system of beliefs central to the functioning of the state. The most powerful state that sees hundreds if not thousands of marriages every day is the Regalian Empire. Below can be found a list of the different forms of marriage in several of the major, most populous Religions in Aloria. Religions not mentioned here are either Race-linked, as in a specific set of beliefs detailed on those specific Race pages which are not proper Religion articles, or are faiths very minor within the wider context of the world. Note: More Wedding Ceremonies will be added with time.

Unionism: Sacrament of Harmony

Service Structure

This religious service is generally a short one, approximately an hour long in total, though it does tend to lengthen depending on the class of the individuals in question. Before the service starts, the groom arrives to speak with the clergyman facilitating the marriage and, depending on the sect or group they are apart of, the groom can receive a blessing for prosperity in the marriage. As this occurs, normal guests can filter in and seat themselves within the church. When the service actually starts, the clergyman stands at the front of the church with the groom before him as bells ring to signal the event’s beginning. Then they watch the procession of the bride as they enter followed by the key family members of both parties, parents, siblings, children, etc. who file into the empty front row. The father, or oldest capable living male relative, escorts the bride directly to the front altar, then proceeds to his own seat in the front row. After this, the clergyman calls out the following phrase, and the assembled congregation must reply with the same: “Blessed are those who partake in the Union! We have gathered together today to unite two young souls together in the Sacrament of Harmony! Praise be to the Spirit and to the Empire!”

The main service consists of a clergyman reciting the Eids, or vows of the Creeds, to the couple and anointing them with Holy Water. During the service, the couple need to do very little, as the original designs for the Sacrament took into account the illiterate masses that make up the working class of the Empire. The service rarely lasts longer than an hour and can occasionally be tailored to match the couple’s specifications within reason, such as special additions to the service or displays of love. Celebrations of the marriage afterwards have been known to last entire nights among the aristocracy. If divorced or widowed, the Sacrament of Harmony is repeated with every new spouse, meaning the Sacraments of Harmony duplicate. A man who divorced his first wife and remarried, thus has two Sacraments of Harmony. Note, because Reverend Sects are allowed to have their own interpretation of what passes for a marriage, it is quite possible to have a Sacrament of Harmony that is recognized by one Reverend but rejected by another.As the Sacrament continues, the clergyman proceeds to say the Eids to the couple. At the completion of each Eid, the clergyman dips their thumb into a drawn tincture of Holy Water, drawing the symbol of an eye on the forehead of the bride and groom to imprint the Creed onto their souls. The Eids are as follows:

• First Creed: By the blessings of the Imperial Spirit, the married couple vows to support and protect the Empire and its Emperor. Duty to the Empire and its holy leader comes first, marriage second!
• Second Creed: This Union shall stand for good morals, virtue and just actions to expand the Spirit’s word throughout Aloria. Its members shall stand as witnesses to their own acts along such positive the lines, and encourage that others do so, all for the glorious health of the Spirit!
• Third Creed: The Blessed couple is bound to respect the example set by those most exemplary of people, the Herons, for they did acts most holy and brave in the name of improving the world. They are all with the Spirit now, and may their example encourage all of us to follow in their pious footsteps!
• Fourth Creed: This Union shall stand strong and last for the greatest of lengths, until that time which the Imperial Spirit summons one to its side. The other will not despair, for it is the knowledge of Union that they will one day be together in the service for Humankind, and be with the Imperial Spirit until the end of days!
• Fifth Creed: The Union of this couple shall find the strength to resist the foul temptations of the dark religions, and seek to cleanse the world of them. All who grow misguided must be brought to the path of righteousness, and the venom of the dark faiths cannot be allowed to spread!
• Sixth Creed: This Union shall be guided by the holy men of the Sancella, as much as they shall protect and serve the men of the Sancella, until the end of time when the holy men shall find themselves in a time of need, both with the strong arm of the man and the kind heart of the woman!
• Seventh Creed: The Union of this couple shall seek to improve themselves, to form through their Union better and more developed people. These improvements to themselves shall aid in furthering the Great Way, and in the fostering of a next generation improved by the improvements of their parents.
• Eighth Creed: This Union shall remain strong in the physical plane of our world until that time that Paradise is brought upon us, and those who came before shall walk the world and all that once was shall no longer be in Union, and those who served in Union before us will be reunited with their descendants and kin from before and after it will be a glorious day one such as this one, celebrated and lived by all!
• Ninth Creed: The Union of this couple shall remain resolutely against even the attempted harm or violation of the protections on Imperial Family and the Emperor himself. He is sacrosanct, the Princes are untouchable, and the Imperial Guard stand above all others in their capacity to defend the Imperial Family. These and all other truths should be fully obeyed and followed by the couple in this Union!
• Tenth Creed: (This Creed is not spoken in mainline Unionism, though is often used to instead directly bless an individual couple as a united whole, the specifics of which are left up to the clergyman).

After the Eids are stated and imprinted upon the souls of the married couple, the clergyman turns back to the altar and pours the remaining Holy Water back into the font, then stating: “This Union shall now join the church of Union as this Holy Water does, blessed by the church and all who stand before and will stand after. May they bless future Unions and stand strong with the Empire and the Emperor, as they stand strong with them for the same cause, the same dream, and the same Paradise!” As the last of the water is poured out, the clergyman turns back to the congregation and looks about, stating: “If there are any objections as to why these two should not wed, speak now or forever hold your peace!” After a few moments have passed, with no obvious objections raised, the clergyman continues: “Now as the two bodies of water once separated have re-united, so shall this Union now be seen as one by the Sancella and State. We declare <Groom Name> and <Bride Name> married by the Faith. The couple may now mark their Union with a final seal in the form of locking lips, much as I, <Clergyman Name>, <Clergyman Title> of Union seal this marriage before the Imperial Spirit! You may now kiss the <Bride/Groom>!” At this point the clergyman moves their hand in an oval to represent the Radiant Eye of the Imperial Spirit. The couple may then kiss to seal the marriage as the congregation applauds for their union. The clergyman may end the ceremony by stating that those in attendance may congratulate the couple. It is often at this point that some sort of music is played, and the congregation is allowed to stand and move about. From here, any celebrations are entirely upon the shoulders of the married couple, and the official service is complete.

Traditional Attire

Grooms will often be dressed in their best clothing, in all classes, but to spend new money on an outfit is generally frowned upon by the lower and middle classes. Instead, the trading and exchanging of clothing with other family members and community members is encouraged. This creates a standard “wedding suit” passed down and worn by all male members of a family in a generation or more. In contrast to this, most aristocratic families go to great lengths for their son’s weddings, commissioning elaborate outfits that incorporate the family’s sigil into a grander motif of colors. The style is often heavily impacted by the region from which the family hails, and it is not uncommon for two men who are marrying on the same day to have two entirely different styles. Regardless of class or position though, the groom must always wear a special yellow sash that is worn over the left shoulder. This matches the purple sash that the bride wears, and both symbolize how the individual is surrounded by the Spirit and is a part of Union.

The most common color for young brides to wear at their wedding is white, with a single purple (or different color depending on the denomination) sash that goes over their right shoulder (which is provided by the church for poorer families and is returned to the church at the end of the service). Most aristocratic families are able to afford to add their familial colors to the dress as well, frequently including capes, gloves, and even sometimes a secondary sash of the family’s main colors. These little displays of wealth are often done tactfully, so as to not cover up the main white dress underneath. Special dressmakers often find their talents in use by various noble families to create special, one of a kind dresses for the wedding of a daughter. On the other side of the fence, the common folk typically have family dresses which are passed down from mother to daughter and are treasured heirlooms. In some smaller communities, there is a tradition of sharing a village dress that all the young brides wear, and in these little towns, it is often a competition for whoever can accessorize the best with the town dress. In the countryside, many weddings take place in simple dresses of brown and black that are accompanied by the local churches sash.

Old Faiths: Ellearøre/Ballarøre

Service Structure

The Old Faiths of Oldt Fayth and Old Gods have one of the most decentralized structures to their weddings, with services sometimes vastly different between towns in the same mountain valley, mere miles apart. Despite the individuality that is at the core of both these faiths, which has allowed their adaption by multiple tribal groups, clans, and Cultures, there are shared commonalities present in all services. The first is the typical lack of a priest or religious figure to officiate the ceremony. Shamans and other sorts of religious men from more tribal communities are not uninvited however, and many come to witness the union and to shower their blessings and prayers onto the new couple to help them achieve good luck. Instead, it is the head of the groom’s family or the head of the community who officiates the wedding as having given his approval for it to have taken place. This approval is not required in the case of Velheim bond-wives or bond-men, butd only for those unions that feature Sol-Kvinnes. Additionally, if a bond-person transitions into being Sol-Kvinne, it is the personal choice of the united pair on whether they should have an official wedding or not. The next consistent feature is that most of these weddings occur in the spring. Given the generally harsh winter climates that the Old Faiths exist in, having weddings during such a cold time is generally seen as only possible in the most urban or populous communities. It also has religious connotations, as the spring and summer are times of life and rebirth and love versus the winter, when it is said a winter wedding will wither within a year. Another consistent feature of Old Faith weddings is the presence of the Vidtide, an ode to love sung at the celebration. Sometimes, it is only the bride who sings it, other times, the couple sings it together and in a rare few cases, the entire wedding party proudly echoes the song to the heavens. The lyrics are roughly the same across the various Cultures who practice the ceremony despite each Language being different, but is important that the song be sung in the native Language of the individual meaning it comes from their cultural heart. Finally, there is always a celebration after an Old Faith wedding, whether it is a private celebration of just the couple and their immediate families or the entire communities, the unity of two people is to be celebrated. The Vidtide goes as follows:

Come to me

You can hear my soul call

Standing in the shadows and waiting for you

Come you, take me with you

My realm awaits

I desire your body

Your eyes are smiling

Your hands are shaking–come you!

Come you my lover, come you to me

All my properties will be yours

Come you my lover, come you to me

I am everything you will ever want

Throw away your life

Your pain and weaknesses

Let me show you what happiness is

Over the Frozen River we will walk

Do not fight against me

I know you want me

It is obvious, I am your fate

Come, come you with me to a world of joy

Come you my lover, come you to me

All my properties will be yours

Come you my lover, come you to me

I am everything you will ever want

The following list is a brief set of customs found in several major Cultures or groups within those Cultures:

• Old Gods - Anglian: Anglian ceremonies are generally more Unionist in style (which is to say formal) than other Old Faith marriage ceremonies. They often take place on holy ground of some description and see both parties in the marriage sing the Vidtide, trading off the lyrics until uniting to sing the final three lines. They also change the line about “Frozen River” into “Golden Fields.” The celebrations have a twist in that the Union of Air, not just the Union of Fire, is also considered to play a role in the marriage, and prayers are done to the new couple’s lands, hoping that they will be as fertile as the couples marriage.
• Old Gods - Velheim: Velheim Old Gods marriage ceremonies have no specific location that they should take place. This variety of ceremony features the Vidtide sung four times by the bride while the groom cuts material in half, with each piece chopped through thought to represent one year of marriage. The material being cut through is often logs, but can also be ice blocks in more frigid climates.
• Oldt Fayth - Velheim: Velheim Oldt Fayth ceremonies are considered by some to be the “standard” style of marriage. There is no specific place that this style of union should take place beyond a location important to the two individuals, whether that is a sight of first affection or of religious importance. It features the Vidtide, sung by only the bride, while the groom takes no specific action other than listening. Most of these ceremonies also feature prayers and specific happenings related to one or two major gods believed in by both the groom and bride.
• Oldt Fayth - Tarkkin: Tarkkin weddings are very important affairs in their society given how key marriage is to their history. They often have several marriages simultaneously, thus producing Vidtiding with several women singing all at once, and their prayers are focused on each of the four main Oldt Gods they worship. The celebrations afterward are lavish, involving the whole Clan in the festivities.
• Oldt Fayth - Fridurfolk: The Fridurfolk are an extremely pious, peaceful folk and their wedding celebrations are evidence of that. They have their weddings before the local Tilbeiðslusteinn of most importance to the couple, with veneration and thanks given to the Veröldinandi who’s shrine it belongs to. There is also a lot of dancing held after the wedding, where the couple in question is the focal point, with “petals” of people surrounding them in rotating lines.

Traditional Attire

Clothing for Old Faith marriage ceremonies is varied across the different Cultures and sects that participate in them. In general though, brides and grooms wear their best clothing, but also tight clothing that is close to the skin or as exposing as possible. After all, they are celebrating something that will ultimately end in the unification of their bodies so unless it is cold, exposed skin is seen to be a respectful gesture to the goddess of love, romance, etc. who have brought them together in that moment. Oddly enough, headgear is key to Old Faith marriages and are used to represent everything from the deity the bride or groom most relates to, to their regional background. Some of the headwear mentioned includes iron helms, driftwood crowns, antler crowns, wild flowers, woven ribbons, and veils of thin fabric.

Faith of Estel: Ajollen-Naderi

Service Structure

Oddly similar in how diverse the beliefs of the Old Faiths function, the fragmentation of the Faith of Estel, due to the rise of so many Nelfin Races, has produced a wide variation in the ceremony of Ajollen-Naderi. However, some things have not changed across the different Neflin Races. The ceremony traditionally begins at dawn, just as the first light of the day is slipping over the horizon. The bride and groom stand side by side, hand in hand, facing the rising sun. As the sun crests over the distant horizon, the pair turn to face each other, taking a step back and bowing. Each partner in turn says their vows, with the bride going first. These vows are always created by the individuals as a way to profess their love and commitments, and rarely are the same due to the personal nature of them. Common themes are promising to protect and love each other, providing for one another in bad times as well as good times, and promising commitment to one another. After the vows, the groom takes a small scoop, historically made of Silver (though bone, wood, or Steel have been used), and ladles out some water from a fount, pool, or bowl (sometimes set out exclusively for the occasion). The groom offers it up to the bride, who takes a sip. The gesture is then repeated by the bride, who gives water to the groom. After this, the pair propose a prayer in unison and an offering to their Altalar Pantheon member of choice, or if married very young, the one they feel they are most likely to pick. The prayer, known as the Seranda, is as follows:

”Highest praise be unto you, dearest <Pantheon God 1> and <Pantheon God 2>, whose guidance teaches us lessons of the world

”May you grant us courage to stand by each other through all chapters of life”

”May you grant us wisdom to value that which we already have beside ourselves”

”May you grant us power to overcome any obstacle that presents itself”

”And may you continue in us your lessons of calm and tranquility”

”Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time”

”Accepting hardship as a pathway to great things, and seeking to make the world a place for all <Race> to live in peace”

At this point, the official for the ceremony enters the grove, traditionally dressed in the regal garb that corresponds for the Race. They carry the two bands, called the An’ollen, that were crafted for the couple who turn to face the official. It is here that there is a major difference between the Races: only the Cielothar, Yanar or those devoted to the pure and ancient variety of the Faith of Estel speak the Vanda’resslanja, which is most accurately translated as “Vow to the Faith”. The Vanda serves as as a pledge that the couple will remain true to Estel, and that they recognize that the world and all that exists within it was created by her will. The official here serves as a witness to the claim of the couple, ensuring that they have said all they need to. The Vanda’resslanja is as follows:

”We stand today not as two individuals, but as one who is made of more. Let our voices be heard and our hearts judged for their merit.”

”We, faithful of Estel, do swear our faith, strength, and devotion to her teachings,”

”To the belief that she, who is greater than all, shaped this world and all who live within it,”

”We take an oath to the children of Estel, the Pantheon, from whom lessons and wisdom flow,”

”That these lessons shall be passed on to our children, and our children’s children, until the day that we pass from this world,”

”We take an oath that we will uphold the tenets of creation, for the good of creation, and by the will of Estel,”

”For this, we share our lives, and for this, we stand today as one; bonded together, one heart, one soul, and one body.”

If the presiding priest finds their Vanda to be satisfactory, which is nearly always the case, he says: “Your words speak the truth, for in them true enlightenment resides. Take pains to keep to your vows, for nothing is as lasting as Estel.” At this point, the two styles of marriage ceremony come together. If the couple is not of the pure and ancient Faith of Estel, they will have immediately proceeded to this phase. At this, the bride and groom hold up their right arms and the official takes the An’ollen, sliding one each onto the arms of the couple. The couple then turn to face each other and kiss, thus consolidating their bond and ending the ceremony. At this point, most modern Estellians hold some form of celebration, which often relates to the Race, Culture, and financial status of the couple. Below can be found a summary of the difference between the different Races in their practice of the Ajollen-Naderi.

• Altalar: Being the originators of the Ajollen-Naderi, the Altalar follow many of the beliefs previously expressed. They commonly have their weddings at shrines dedicated to the Inner and Outer Pantheons, or ancient sites related to Estel. Their Anollen are most commonly metal bands, with Gold for men and Silver for women. Their wedding officiants must be a priest or priestess of the Altalar Pantheon or Estel, though if there is no one of that background present, an aged Yanar may stand in, given their connection to Estel.
• Cielothar and Yanar: The Cielothar and Yanar follow many of the same traditions of the Altalar, though their An’ollen are not metal. They are often instead woven leather bands or beaded bracelets, with symbols of faith carved or pressed into them. Additionally, the ceremony occurs in a flowery or natural place away from the settlement so that Estel can fully and properly witness the event. Their wedding officiants must be a priest or priestess of Estel, though if there is no one of that background present, an aged Yanar may stand in given their connection to Estel.
• Avanthar: Avanthar beliefs are far more wild and decentralized when compared to those of their close relatives the Cielothar and Altalar. Avanthar get married at night under the stars that are their true gods, regardless of individual belief in another Religion, and shirk the traditional words of the Seranda and the Vanda’resslanja in favor of their own simpler pledge to fight for each other and the Avanthar way until death. Additionally, their Anollen are either matching tattoos on the same part of the body or leather bands, more complex and more extensively “Avanthar-ized” than those found in Cielothar communities. Their officiators are the group’s leadership or their chosen representative, their inclusion being a sign of approval at the match that will serve to improve the Avanthar bloodline. Also, rather than the water used during the ceremony, animal milk is used to represent their connection with their herding lifestyle.
• Sihndar: The Ajollen-Naderi of the Sihndar is possibly the simplest of all the subgroups of Nelfin. They have their ceremonies within the wall of their Citadels, in an assigned corner each possess that might be seen as the structure’s “chapel.” The union’s officiant is often the Sihn-Fallar to at least one of the individuals in the union and water is not used, as it is considered wasteful. Instead, each Sihndar gently blows into the face of their partner. The Sihndar also reject the use of the Serenda as a vile Altalar construct, but they do speak the Vanda’resslanja, adding this additional line at the end: “We take an oath to stand firm against the darkness, for we are the torch that keeps the darkness at bay.” Post-ceremony celebrations often involve duels where the married couple engage in practice spars with various guests, and little extra food is eaten, life returning to normal fairly quickly.

Traditional Attire

Historically, grooms partaking in the Ajollen-Naderi ceremony wear whatever is deemed as dress clothing for the males of the society. Altalar will wear white, loose, flowing robes of silk or cashmere, which is often decorated with jewelry to express the groom’s wealth. These robes are dyed white to better reflect the light of dawn, and are intended to show the groom’s respect for Estel’s purity and greatness. Along with this, they traditionally wear simple, white slippers. Among the Cielothar, the robes are made of simpler materials, and are frequently decorated with vibrant flowers such as Lady’s Shine or Ruby Flower; intended to breathe new life and color into the costume, just as Estel breathed life into the world. Avanthar favor their traditional leather harnesses accompanied by a special cape that is reserved for Ajollen-Naderi ceremonies. The cape is made by hand, and consists of hundreds of black and Silver beads and strings that create beautiful tapestries that are intended to replicate the brilliance of the night sky, with Silver flecks shining out from a sea of inky blackness. This cape is kept in special care and only worn during Ajollen-Naderi, during which the moonlight glimmers off the cape as the groom performs the ceremony. These garments are often passed down from generation to generation within a family, and hold tremendous value to the males of a clan. Finally, the Sihndar favor their armor as they hold true to their zealous cause and every component of their ceremonies is austere and militaristic with little decoration.

The bride’s ensemble during the ceremony of Ajollen-Naderi is also based upon the culture that is celebrating the bonding. Altalar tend to wear bright, single tone colors in their dress; often pale blue, pink, or yellow. The theme has always been to match the colors of dawn, since it is believed to be a sacred time where new beginnings occur. The dresses are handmade in different styles and materials, and as such they often match the individual who is getting married. Altalar brides also frequently wear Silver tiaras, decorated with various gemstones, as well as a wide variety of necklaces, pendants, bracelets, and rings all crafted of Silver. Cielothar brides often wear equally brightly colored dresses to the Altalar, with the exception that they include multiple colors. Popular combinations are rose and yellow, periwinkle and cyan, and mint and rose. Their dresses also include colorful beads and feathers foraged from birds nests, which are weaved into the fabric to make intricate designs. Avanthar women tend to dress incredibly simply, wearing their standard clothing of light fabrics and leather harnesses with the occasional bone jewelry. Some more free-spirited Avanthar will wear a crown of weaved flowers, but this is uncommon. Finally, Drowdar women traditionally partake in Ajollen-Naderi wearing their armor, accompanied by a pale lavender sash of fabric worn over the right shoulder. This sash is communal, and is routinely decorated by each couple who is bonded; adding their own mark.

OOC Information

• Religious-based weddings are not binding within the Regalian Empire, not even Unionist ones. A couple who marry within the Regalian Empire also must get the State (ie. the legal courts) to agree to it. Those Races with more limited rights might find it very difficult to be officially married in the eyes of the Regalian Empire.
• Same-sex marriages are capable of being performed in all three ceremonies discussed above, though it is sometimes difficult to be done. Some Unionist sects and their priests reject allowing it, certain areas of Velheim and Anglian territory dislike same-sex couples as a societal aberation, and the Altalar and Sihndar dislike it on the basis that it reduces the number of future Altalar and Sihndar into the world. However, traveling to other areas or finding more accepting individuals to perform the ceremony is always possible.
• For information on any wedding ceremony missing from the list, be it racial or cultural, please contact the Lore Staff member HydraLana who will hopefully be able to answer your questions or make a MassiveCraft RP Discord Ticket.

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